How can we our son, he's in a deep depression?

you've the old dadage about sticks and stones...? well words really do and can hurt more than sticks and stones, as you have found out the hard way. you need to confront your son once more. this time you need to go to him in repentance for your treatment of him when he needed you the most. let him know that you are truely sorry for the pain and anguish that you caused him. let him know that you love him very much and are very worried about him. maybe both of you and his sister can confront him in a loving and compionate way and talk to him about receiving treatment for his depression. you might consult a doctor or lawyer to see if,since he has indicated suicidal thoughts, if you can get him into a psych ward of a local hospital without his okay. this happened to me 8 years ago when i had suicidal tendencies. i was told that i had a choice. i either admitted myself for a week or two or my husband could have me admitted for whatever time that a judge said i had to stay in a psych ward against my will. what ever way you need to do it your son is in need of immediate medical attention. i was angry at first but after being put on medicine and seeing a psychiatrist i saw that what my husband did was for my own welfare and am now 8 years later doing very well. i take meds every day and now see my psychiatrist every 3 months. i wish all of you the very best. just remember that as parents sometimes wanting what we think is best for our children is not also so. sometimes before responding to people in ouyr lives we need to sit back and think about the situation before we respond to it the way that our hearts and minds tell us should be our initial repsonse to a situation. a day or two of serious thinking will not usually have to much of a change of outcome on a situation. i freely admit that with my own grown son that i have reacted badly initially but after thinking about it for a few days have changed my mind and heart and sought a different response that had a more positive outcome than my origiona; reaction would have had. Many BLESSINGS to you and your family and i hope the outcome here is one of love and compion on all sides.